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Helping Children Develop Good Relationships with Cats

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Your child shouldn’t stick the finger in the cat’s face or try to entice her to play. This is a really important fact so I’ll stress it again — your child shouldn’t stick the finger in the cat’s face.  Show your child how to merely extend his finger as if it’s another cat’s nose. This will give the cat an opportunity to do some initial sniffing. The cat is the one who has the choice of whether to approach or not.  If she wants to interact with your child, she’ll rub against his finger or move closer. If she doesn’t want more interaction, she’ll stay still or move away. Explain to your child that cats use scent as a way to gather information and communicate. Cats use scent as a form of recognition. The opportunity to sniff your child’s finger is close to how two feline friends would approach each other.

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If your cat chooses not to sniff the finger or merely sniffs it and backs away (or if the cat was already stationary, she may turn her head away), then that’s a sign she doesn’t want to interact. If your child understands that and moves away then it begins to build trust because she’ll feel as if she has choices. When you give your cat a choice it helps prevent her from defensive reactions due to feeling trapped in a corner. That’s the foundation of trust-building.

Pet the Cat With an Open Hand

The incorrect petting technique can squash a budding relationship. Show your child how to gently pet with an open hand and to stroke in the direction the fur grows. Some cats have sensitive areas or definite preferences when it comes to certain body locations. Instruct your child on the areas to stay away from. If you have more than one cat, each one may have very different likes and dislikes so teach your child that what one cat enjoys may not be what the other likes.  In general, many young children pet by patting the cat and most cats don’t enjoy that kind of touch. The overall preferred method is to use smooth strokes. The typical place cats enjoy being petted is on the back of the head. Some cats like long strokes down the back but for other cats that’s either too stimulating or too sensitive. Know what your cat likes so you can instruct your child correctly.

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With some cats there’s a window of opportunity when it comes to how long they enjoy being petted. If you know that about your cat you can offer your child some guidelines. If your child is old enough to be aware of body language show him what to watch for that could indicate kitty is reaching her tolerance level. If your child is very young then give guidelines such as telling him he can pet a specific number of times. To further build trust, instruct your child that no matter how much the cat may enjoy the interaction, if she moves away it means she’s finished. If your cat feels she has the choice to stop the interaction when she has had enough it’ll go a long way in strengthening that all-important bond of trust.

Create Special Games for the Cat and Your Child

Cats love to play. Children love to play. Children love to play with pets. Help your child pick out a cat toy – preferably a design that resembles a fishing pole – and show him how to conduct a play session with kitty. Teach your child not to poke the cat or point the toy in her face, as well as not frustrating the cat by keeping the toy out of reach. Place open paper bags on their sides and have your child try to get the toy in each bag. Both he and the cat will have fun. If you use a fishing pole design toy, make sure the child is old enough to understand how to move the toy and not poke the cat. If the child is younger or you’re at all concerned, use something like a peacock feather or a soft snake-like toy such as the Cat Charmer. Another option is to have your child use a wand to create catnip bubbles. These bubbles can be purchased at your local pet product store or online. Don’t let your child blow the bubbles in the cat’s face.

A Young Cat Trainer in the Making

Clicker training is a wonderful, positive and effective form of training a cat. If your child is old enough, show him how to do some basic clicker training with the cat. One of the easiest things to teach is “sit” or he can use the clicker to train the cat to come when called. You can find information in my book, Think Like a Cat. I would also recommend watching some YouTube videos so your child can see first-hand how much fun it is to use clicker training.

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