Your cat uses that same behavior to strengthen the bond she shares with you. Rubbing, head bunting and being physically close are just a few of the ways she shows affection.
Most cats also enjoy being petted and touched but there are right and wrong ways to do it though. When petting a cat you want to make sure the experience is a positive one for her. Here are some tips.
Respect Your Cat’s Personal Space
Just because your cat may enjoy being petted doesn’t mean she wants it all the time. Be respectful of her personal space because there may be times when she simply wants to be alone. When she’s sitting at the window and is focused on a bird outside may not be the time to startle or distract her just for a little petting. There may also be specific locations in the home that she prefers to be “people-free” zones. My cat, Pearl, for example, views the top perch of her cat tree as a people-free spot. When she’s up there, even though I could easily reach her, I leave her alone. Her body language let me know long ago about this preference and I respect it. I will admit though, it’s very tempting when I see her up there but having her trust is more important.
Correctly Interpret Your Cat’s Body Language
Just because your cat approaches you doesn’t mean she wants to be petted. She may be meowing because she wants food or is asking for playtime. If she rubs up against you or leans against you, she’s likely showing affection, and based on what you know about your kitty, being petted is probably desired.
If it’s an unfamiliar cat, don’t automatically reach out and start petting. Let her become familiar with your scent first by extending your index finger. This way she can sniff it, in the same way cats engage in nose-to-nose sniffing. If she rubs against your hand or comes closer, she’s probably comfortable with being petted. Keep watching her body though because it could change.
Learn the Cat’s Petting Preference
Typically, cats enjoy being petted on the top of the head, between the ears and down the back of neck. Many cats also enjoy getting lightly scratched under the chin or rubbed along the side of the cheek (just be sure to stay away from those sensitive whiskers.) If you’re unfamiliar with the cat, don’t move your hand directly over her face, but rather, come in from the side so you don’t appear threatening. If the cat backs up or leans away from you, immediately stop petting. She’s letting you know she’s not ready.
Cats are Social
Some cats enjoy being petted down the back all the way to the tail. Others find that unpleasant or even painful. If you attempt to pet those areas, watch the cat’s body language very carefully. Petting along the back or near the tail can even trigger an unexpected aggressive response.
Leave The Stomach Alone
As a rule, the one place to stay away from when it comes to petting is the cat’s stomach. No matter how tempting and soft it looks, a cat isn’t a Golden Retriever asking for a belly rub. Petting a cat’s stomach will likely trigger an immediate defensive reaction where all claws, and maybe the teeth, connect with your tender flesh. Keep in mind that if you happen to have a cat who thoroughly enjoys a tummy rub doesn’t mean other cats you encounter will automatically appreciate those special massages. Be safe and stay away from the belly. Even if you’re quick enough to pull your hand away if the cat reacts negatively, you don’t want to turn this into a bad experience for the cat.
The Right Touch
Unless you know for a fact that your cat enjoys being petted vigorously, stick to gentle, light petting and head scratching. When stroking, go in the same direction the fur grows.
Watch for Changing Signals
Some cats enjoy long periods of being petted. They may serenade you with purrs and then maybe even fall asleep. Other cats might get too aroused if petted for an extended time. If you’re lucky, the aroused cat will just move away when she has had enough. If you’re not so lucky, that cat may bite or scratch.
If you’re dealing with your own cat, learn her limits so you can end well before the first sign appears. Don’t even let it get to the point where she must give you a warning sign. Stop way before she begins to get tired of it or gets too stimulated and this way you train the cat to enjoy future sessions of being petted.
If you’re petting an unfamiliar cat, keep in mind that you don’t know her tolerance level so stop while it’s still an enjoyable experience.
Signs that a Cat May be Reaching Her Tolerance Level
Every cat is an individual but here are general guidelines:
- Skin rippling
- Tail twitching
- Tail lashing or thumping
- Vocalizing (meow or low growl)
- Lowered ear position
- Body shifting
- Head lowering
- Cessation of purring
As I mentioned earlier, some cats can only take a certain amount of petting before they get too stimulated or find it uncomfortable. Some cats though, become extremely reactive in a way that seems to come out of nowhere. Your cat may absolutely enjoy being petted and then suddenly, out of the blue, violently attack your hand. Understandably, this behavior is upsetting to cat parents because it seems totally unprovoked. You think your cat is enjoying the affection and then she turns into an attack cat. What is happening in most cases is that the cat is getting too stimulated. Some cats can only handle a limited amount of physical contact. In other cases, you may be petting too much on areas of the body that are causing stimulation or even discomfort.